Because I'm A Big Girl
Some people have the misconception about BBW (big beautiful women) that we must all be desperate for a man, or that because we are big that we will accept any kind of affection or mistreatment we can get because we are big. I am here to school you that 1. I am not desperate 2. I don't accept any kind of man 3. It's not real easy to sleep with me. I dealt with that kind of stuff before and had to check men on that kind of crap.
What really grinds my gears is to actually SEE other BBW's perpetuate this myth and go along with the status quo. Just getting in where you fit in. I have seen with my own eyes BBW's at the dances in Tampa having sex with men they just met and to have meaningful relationships as a result of that encounter.
Don't get me wrong I have had my share of lousy men who really needed to go back to treat her like a lady-101. We as women especially larger women set the tone early on of how a man is going to treat you. I allowed myself not to be acknowledged and relegated to the sideline because I was TOO afraid to command my respect and ASK for what I wanted, just to say I have somebody in my life. YES I get lonely and YES I yearn for true genuine companionship, but never again at the cost of my self esteem or self worth. I AM WORTH waiting for and I WILL HOLD out for what is best for me.
I spent 16 years off and on trying to figure out WHY he would not commit to just me and I spent nearly a YEAR in a marriage that never should have taken place. I HOLD myself in a much higher regard and I really don't need a man in my life to be happy. I found out that even though I have those bad days, I am evolving into a REAL LOVE AFFAIR with MYSELF, and if I get that urge to get physical there are ALWAYS XTC shops for that(wink wink) that piece of man (sometimes the most useful part of him) cost about $39.95 and HE doesn't DISRESPECT ME, won't MESS UP MY CREDIT and when I don't want to be bothered. I CAN PUT HIM IN THE DRAWER.
What really grinds my gears is to actually SEE other BBW's perpetuate this myth and go along with the status quo. Just getting in where you fit in. I have seen with my own eyes BBW's at the dances in Tampa having sex with men they just met and to have meaningful relationships as a result of that encounter.
Don't get me wrong I have had my share of lousy men who really needed to go back to treat her like a lady-101. We as women especially larger women set the tone early on of how a man is going to treat you. I allowed myself not to be acknowledged and relegated to the sideline because I was TOO afraid to command my respect and ASK for what I wanted, just to say I have somebody in my life. YES I get lonely and YES I yearn for true genuine companionship, but never again at the cost of my self esteem or self worth. I AM WORTH waiting for and I WILL HOLD out for what is best for me.
I spent 16 years off and on trying to figure out WHY he would not commit to just me and I spent nearly a YEAR in a marriage that never should have taken place. I HOLD myself in a much higher regard and I really don't need a man in my life to be happy. I found out that even though I have those bad days, I am evolving into a REAL LOVE AFFAIR with MYSELF, and if I get that urge to get physical there are ALWAYS XTC shops for that(wink wink) that piece of man (sometimes the most useful part of him) cost about $39.95 and HE doesn't DISRESPECT ME, won't MESS UP MY CREDIT and when I don't want to be bothered. I CAN PUT HIM IN THE DRAWER.
